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Goodbye, aelith1946

This weekend, I learned that aelith1946 - Aelith on Shejidan - has died. She was 63.

She contacted me last month via locked post to tell me her cancer had returned and spread, but that chemotherapy was going well and that a prognosis would be made "next year." Then, according to a note that her brother sent to felicitoussk8er, Aelith caught pneumonia due to her weakened immune system. Treatment was ineffective, and she died November 14.

When Aelith heard about my own illness on Shejidan, she instantly assumed the role of concerned older sister, pestering me to ask my doctors all the right questions and exhorting me to take an active role in my treatments. The news that she has lost this battle has left me sad and empty.

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chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:36 pm (UTC)

>hugs back<

ann_leckie
Nov. 24th, 2009 12:46 pm (UTC)
Oh no! That's terrible, I'm so sorry to hear that.
chomiji
Nov. 24th, 2009 03:43 pm (UTC)

There is a memorial thread going on in Shejidan.

>hugs<

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chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:38 pm (UTC)

I'm having the usual survivor's guilt/regrets ... wish I'd talked to her more, etc.

>hugs<

geri
Nov. 24th, 2009 01:21 pm (UTC)
That family has my deepest sympathy and condolences. It's always sad to read about someone passing away from any type of cancer. May her soul RIP. And she gave you some well placed advice to get involved in your treatments was sound advice from someone with experience.
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:41 pm (UTC)

I'm having all those regrets about not having talked with her as much as I might, etc. sk8er gave me the brother's address, and I wrote him a note about how she'd been helping me.

amai_kaminari
Nov. 24th, 2009 02:25 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear that. She sounds like she was a wonderful person. :( My condolences to her family and friends. :( *HUGS*
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:44 pm (UTC)

I've got all sorts of mixed-up guilty feelings because she confided in me because of our mutual health concerns but there were others on the board who interacted with her a lot more. She really was a wonderful person, though.

>hugs!<

jinxaire
Nov. 24th, 2009 02:32 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. *hugs*
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:45 pm (UTC)

Thanks for coming by ... >hugs<

badtzphoto
Nov. 24th, 2009 05:30 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:50 pm (UTC)

I'm lucky to have people like you to stop by.

rachelmanija
Nov. 24th, 2009 07:34 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:54 pm (UTC)

The delay in talking about it was made things very weird ... I was asked to hold off until the mods - many of whom knew her better than I did (we two just had the shared-illness thing) - on the board felt able to deal with it and made a formal announcement. I was sort of in limbo from Saturday night until I wrote the post.

elsane
Nov. 24th, 2009 10:49 pm (UTC)
Sad news. I'm so sorry.
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 05:55 pm (UTC)

Thanks; yes, very sad. I had half-convinced myself she would get better.

freeradical9
Nov. 25th, 2009 02:31 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear of this loss. I didn't know her, but from your words and the posts on the board, she seems a very kind and a very brave woman. It sounds like she made a real difference in the lives that she touched, and that is the best kind of legacy.
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 06:01 pm (UTC)

It's a close group - a number of them have managed to get together IRL a couple of times. I'm not quite as much at ease there as I am with this crew on LJ, but a number of them have been very very kind and sweet to me over the years. I was touched by Aelith's protective and considerate response to the news of my own illness. The fact that she confided in me last month and then was gone so quickly was a real kick in the gut.

Thanks so much for the kind words here. >hugs<

smillaraaq
Nov. 25th, 2009 04:06 am (UTC)
*hugs you tight*
chomiji
Nov. 25th, 2009 06:04 pm (UTC)

>clutches you<

I'm having some real survivor's guilt over this. It also opened up the issue of my own health again over there, so I'll have to grit my teeth and make a post. I just get tired of talking about it, but the kind folks over there can't see my locked posts here, so I just need to put on my big-girl panties and do it.

vom_marlowe
Nov. 26th, 2009 04:08 am (UTC)
*hugs you tight*

I'm so sorry to hear this.
chomiji
Dec. 2nd, 2009 03:48 am (UTC)
aelith

>Hugs back<

I know you've had your own encounters of this sort recently ... .

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